Last class, we have a group work on rating the different kinds of situation or condition base on the perception of "sharing". Given in different situation or events that we have to vote if we would like to share it with our friend, close friend, everyone or only keep it to itself. Our group got two pages with the same list of the situation, we decided to separate the team with three people per small group and come to united our group decision at the end. During the final decision, we got an argument on whom to share for the "sex partner". All the girls automatically chose X, which keeps it to itself. However, two guys were choosing F (friend) simultaneously. And another guy was struggling to choose between CF(close friend) and F (friend). Base on this situation, this indicated not only everyone has a different view of intimacy about the certain circumstance. But also indicated how the difference of mindset between women and men. I remember in the context of interpersonal communication, under the caption 'challenges of friendships', the author illustrated the view on how men and women want to have communicated differently. For instance, women would hang out just because they want to talk to each other. On the other hand, men's would like to engage in activities which will involve communication during the activities.
Not only that different gender have different view on the same circumstance, but same gender could also have different opinion and different decision making. For instance, when we in small group, three of us (all female) have different view on revealing our GPA. I personally think GPA can reveal to friend or close friend, but others would think of GPA is a private number that similar to the number on the scale of your weight. We all conclude that these "numbers" are related to self confident. These numbers reveal the degree of confident on viewing yourself and how others view onto you. Again, there it comes to the difference between male and female, in which our group of male views that these number can be shown to everyone. All these sharing of numbers on men doesn't reflect about confident at all, they only view these numbers are apart of you and it not really a big deal of sharing it.
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